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I HAVE A PORN PROBLEM, WE ALL DO

I HAVE A PORN PROBLEM, WE ALL DO

Words by Ian Henderson, Naked Truth founder.

5 years ago, I started a porn project. I’ll be honest with you, it wasn’t something I had intended. I certainly didn’t sit down with my careers advisor at school and suggest it as part of my life plan.

But here’s the reason.

I have a problem with porn, but then we all do.

The birth of the internet followed swiftly by it’s big fat brother broadband, were game changers both for those making and those looking for porn. Then in 2007, Steve Jobs stood on a californian stage and introduced the world to his new invention- the iPhone. It was a revolutionary idea and great news for apple fans like me, but also the beginning of a huge shift in our culture. The internet is great, and I can’t imagine trying to end a ‘family discussion’ without getting out my phone for Google’s final say. But also, we have become the ‘porn in our pocket’ generation, with anytime, anywhere access to unregulated content. Arguably never in history has pornography been more accessible, affordable, anonymous or potentially addictive. This shift is causing unparalleled damage to our culture, our churches and ourselves.  That’s a problem

1 in 8 web searches is for erotic content. In 2016 ONE pornsite reported 23 billion visits a year; that’s 1.9 billion a month (over 7 times the monthly visits to BBC iplayer) That pornsite’s top 5 search terms include: Teen, Step Sister, Step Mum  That’s a problem

56% of men said their taste in porn had become “increasingly extreme or deviant” often creating problems in real relationships  After analsing top-selling porn content, 88% of the scenes contained physical aggression. That’s a problem

An association of lawyers reported 56% of their divorce cases involved one party having an “obsessive interest” in pornographic websites. an in a study of 800 regular porn users: 20% said they prefer the excitement of viewing porn to being sexually intimate with a partner.  That’s a problem

In a recent government report 94% of teens said they had seen porn by the age of 14. In other report 40% of 11-14 yr olds have used their mobile phones or computer to send pictures of themselves or receive naked or topless images of friends That’s a problem

41% of Christians admit to being addicted to pornography Only 7% of Churches have programs to help those struggling with porn. That’s a problem.

Porn use leaves individuals broken and beaten down with shame and self hate, feeling disconnected from God and community. Spouses and partners feel betrayed, isolated and to blame. Young people’s expectations of sex, intimacy and self image are being shaped by profiteers and porn use. Porn performers speak of being coerced and controlled with some even the victims of trafficking. That’s a problem.

I think you get the picture, we all have a problem with porn. It may not be because of our personal porn use, but it’s our mates, our partners, our kids, our pastors, our churches, our culture. It’s our problem.

5 years ago, I started a porn project. I’ll be honest with you, it wasn’t something I had intended. Yet without question it’s needed.

The Naked Truth Project aims to open eyes & free lives from the damaging impact of pornography. We do this through awareness, education and recovery programmes. Whether it’s lessons in schools, parent workshops, online recovery groups for users or support for partners, we work with men and women, churched and unchurched, young and old.

Although, I strongly believe that pornography is one of greatest challenges our culture is facing and I also think it is one of the church’s greatest opportunities to see healing, salvation and transformation. We must to prophesy to the bones, in prayer and action and begin to write a better story for our communities. As a church, we can help, but Jesus can heal and breathe life.

This year Naked Truth is partnering with Care, alongside 24-7 Prayer, to put on the P WORD conference. Taking place in Glasgow, Belfast and Cardiff, this day of teaching, worship and prayer aims to give churches a practical and pastoral response to pornography. We want to equip those in any kind of Church leadership to talk about and tackle pornography in their churches and communities. 

(This text was originally written for and posted on the 24-7 Prayer blog)

To learn more about Naked Truth and our programmes visit www.nakedtruthproject.comIan Henderson is the founder of Naked Truth, he lives in Manchester. You can find him on twitter @hende

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